Damian’s CBAY coordinator actually said these words to me, “How have you been doing Mrs. Cronnelly? It must be nice to atleast get a break (from Damian).”
First, no she was not on drugs at the time. Second, this is a woman who works with mentally ill children and their families everyday. Third, she presents as a generally knowledgeable human being who has a masters degree in Social Work. Fourth, she was not drunk.
I am not a politically correct guru, I do not fuss about labels or words spoken in good faith. But this comment sent me over the edge (albeit not hard to do lately).
I responded….”If Damian had Cerbral Palsy and I had to care for him 24/7, then he had to go to the hospital for an operation. Would you say to me, “I know this is hard, but atleast you get a break?”
She responded with a quick, “Well of course not, but…”
I interrupted the rest of her sentence…”Then why you would even think to tell me “atleast I get a break” is outrageous, hypocritical, and completely unacceptable. Never, ever say that sentence to another parent again, do you understand me?”