Hello, how are you doing?


These words should be stricken from the human greeting repertoire. No one really answers truthfully. The person asking does not really want to know the answer. Nor do they stop to ask the question. They usually speak the question while actively walking right by you.

No one wants you tell the truth that they had a crappy day because their son is in a mental hospital and has not talked to you in 7 days. That you make 8-10 phone calls a day to secure his placement in residential care where he will be away from you for 3-6 months. You can’t say, I really miss being a mom and had to make horrible choices to send my son away today. Choices that will save his life but will exclude him from his family again. Choices that will severely limit my parental rights and empower strangers to raise my child.

So let’s just stop people. Honestly I hating having to lie 10-20 times a day.

One thought on “Hello, how are you doing?

  1. I’m so sorry honey.i know it’s like choosing the lesser of two evils.neither choice being one you want.i wish I could just hug you and cry and scream and laugh and be insane mommys together.i know how lonely , overwhelmed, failed,joyous, all at once dealing with not just the child but the system can be.it gives you a glimpse of what bipolar must feel like.we love you if there’s anything I can do even just sitting on the phone listening please let me know.sending you hugs .


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