I raced home today to catch the last half of our son’s telephone conference family therapy session.
I was hopeful we would solidify our December 20th discharge date. I need’nt have bothered, his therapist informed us that he had refused to come to therapy. He told his therapist “I know my rights you can’t make me go.” The next conversation was that Damian had chosen a $100 Christmas gift provided by Coastal Harbor.
Some background….Two weeks ago (in our supposedly last family therapy session) we found out that our son had refused to work at school for a whole day while he constructed a 3 page Christmas Gift List for us. When we shared that each child in our family was being given $50 to donate to a charity of their choice and not writing gift lists this year, our son became silent and refused to finish the therapy session. The next several days he told staff he “would be staying at Coastal Harbor for Christmas” and “when was he going to make his $100 gift purchase”. He began self harm statements intentionally so he would not be discharged. I told his therapist under no circumstances should Damian be allowed to “choose a gift from Coastal Harbor”.
They (The Coastal Harbor Administration) felt this was unfair and this past Sunday let him choose a gift.
He hasn’t called us since Sunday and today refused our family therapy session.
Remember when he came home from the Crisi Stabilization Unit with a cup full of Gummi bears? We are here again!
So now my son has turned in another ticket to ride his lonely carousel. But hey $100 sneakers are more important, right?
I have surely been nicknamed “The Grinch” by nameless, faceless people who think they know more about me son than me.
I am unreasonably furious and so deeply tired.